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From
the Desk of Susan Maria…
I
am not going to talk about what we did during our Before
& After Celebration, as the trip details will be the
talk of our board for the next week… but I do want
to talk about our trip made us feel.
A hundred wonderful people, all with a common thread of
having the courage to embrace enormous change, descended
upon The Mirage in Las Vegas this week and as I write this
have all returned home from our lovely daydream. Instead
of the magic of sitting under a thousand yards of billowing
white parachute silk while performers and lights danced
to The Beatles, or drinking the most delicious Iced Coffee
Protein Lattes made by Miss Dolly herself, and laughing
with our new friends, we’re unpacking and doing laundry.
Some of us left our towns for the first time in years, driving
solo en route to new a state. We nervously boarded planes,
lowered ourselves into seats, cautiously buckled belts around
smaller torsos and smiled. We hailed taxicabs; navigated
through a massive rainforest lobby filled with hundreds
of people, and asserted ourselves at an imposing front desk.
We all pushed the envelope somewhat and took a leap of faith
in meeting at The Mirage. Then we opened our eyes, looked
around, and noticed we weren’t all that different
from the multitudes living their own Las Vegas adventure.
We intentionally didn’t host seminars on plastic surgery
or speeches on the psychology of post op weight gain; we
didn’t want to talk about living – we wanted
to live - and oh my, did we live! Some would even say that
we “rocked”.
The reality of this trip was that passersby neither knew
nor cared we were once morbidly obese; no one questioned
why we chose an appetizer for our meal, or would imagine
that as recently as six months ago some of us couldn’t
fit in a theatre seat to watch a Cirque du Soleil performance.
We were proud of how we looked in our finery, and confidence
soared while we were surrounded by others who shared our
secret past, yet the truth was we were every bit as attractive
and charming a group as the folks at the other party at
Postrio!
We laughed, we loved, we cried, we cheered, we glowed, we
felt beautiful … and I have already confirmed with
The Mirage that we will be doing it again next year. I had
the time of my life sharing this adventure with all of you.
Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all
you see.
It's getting hard to be someone but it all works out, it
doesn't matter much to me.
Let me take you down, ‘cause I'm going to Strawberry
Fields.
Nothing is real and nothing to get hung about, Strawberry
Fields forever. – Lennon/McCartney
Have
a joyful month and please remember the important of protein
on your summer vacation. We do not plan to fail, we just
fail to plan. Live within the wonderful and delicious bounds
of your surgery. Take your protein drinks and bars with
you, as vacation is not an excuse to throw your hard work
to the wind and go crazy on fast food and Doritos. Don’t
be sad about things you can’t have; look forward to
and enjoy what you can have! Our lifestyle changes are for
life so make this summer the first of many healthy and slim
summers to come.
Ciao,
Susan Maria
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The Ultimate Before and After
This
past week has been surreal to me, and it has given me an
opportunity to see myself through others’ experiences.
You see it hasn’t been all that long ago that I boarded
a plane and took off for Las Vegas with BE. I remember how
afraid I was boarding a plane for the very first time, afraid
of getting lost in the airport, and afraid of living!
One
of the greatest experiences I had this week was witnessing
the Smashbox makeovers. After each makeover, the recipient
would look into the mirror and the reflection would amaze
them. It was as if someone held the mirror up to their face
and allowed them to see the person that they were waiting
to see again.
It’s my opinion that we from time to time get lost
in our own insecurities; we can only see our flaws. It takes
someone else telling us we are beautiful then holding the
mirror up for us and showing us that we are beautiful--then
suddenly, the reflection is smiling.
It was the biggest deal to me that a company like Smashbox
saw the importance in making our group feel great about
themselves and went to such great lengths to make us all
feel great. I have to be honest, I am a lover of makeup
and for me to know that I had a beauty lesson and makeover
by an International artist is pretty spectacular.

Our artists were Marie, Josef, Kayla, Natalie, Jeannie and
Natasha. They worked for hours without taking a lunch. Originally,
we were allotted 30-minute time slots but the artists outdid
themselves and devoted ever how much time it took to get
the right look and thoroughly explain it to us. They were
so touched with our stories and our tears; I smiled as Jeannie
announced that in 28 years of makeup artistry she had never
seen anything so special.
We ARE all beautiful, with everything in life we must accentuate
the positive, what a wonderful job they did explaining that.
I now have a lot of Smashbox sisters across the US. Some
of our ladies had never had a makeover; some had never worn
makeup.
This
was in my opinion one of the greatest days ever, even though
we were running behind schedule most everyone gathered to
wait in the hospitality suite and we just talked and socialized.
Although our artists had stood all day on their feet and
had no lunch they WANTED to keep going and make sure everyone
got a makeover. They never complained and honestly they
were happy about it, and of course I did start mixing them
up protein drinks.
I
would like to say a very special thank you to Smashbox and
our artist for the great work they did, and for showing
a group of beautiful ladies how beautiful they really are!
~Teresa White
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Stepping Out
For all of the months of happy chatter and planning that
went into the BE Las Vegas trip, I never ever thought or
imagined even for a moment that I might work up the courage
to step outside of the comfortable cocoon of my home and
go along. Sometimes, when one is daydreaming, they might
put themselves in a position that they know they would never
follow through with, and at least enjoy the image of it
in their daydreams. I never once did that with the BE trip
to Las Vegas. It was so far outside of my realm and what
I might reach to accomplish and enjoy that I was simply
happy to read and enjoy the fun, anticipation and the excitement
and planning which so many other BE message board posters
were talking about.
But
there is something to be said for the pull of others’
excited words, even within a message board format. As I
read daily, and the time was quickly approaching for the
big event, I did begin to wonder what it might be like to
actually meet in person some of the people who were instrumental
in helping me though difficult times as a weight loss surgery
post-op. There were those whose posts I found uplifting
and encouraging and that I followed daily. Now I had the
chance to meet those very special people in person if I
chose to. There is also Susan Maria, who has been with me…and
I mean WITH me every step of the journey as I waded through
some crummy post op complications, helping me sort out vitamins
and nutrition and eating for healing, finding top doctors,
and a myriad of emotional issues too. I could thank her
in person if I chose to go on the Las Vegas trip. And Linda,
who has become a very good friend though e-mail and personal
messages, would also be there. How nice it would be to actually
put out my hand and physically touch these people. I still
had no intention of making the trip, but I was now thinking
non-stop about not going. And, allowing myself to daydream
just the wee tiniest bit, of how it might be, if I went.
With the trip just weeks away, the message board fervor
was at an all time high with tips on clothes, food, what
to pack. Oh, how I wished I had what I needed inside of
myself to go. I realized that I had allowed myself to practically
become shut inside my own home. Not completely, but it was
dawning on me that my fears are beginning to restrict the
quality of my life. The longer I gave it thought, the more
I felt I needed to do something. Susan Maria encouraged
me to go. Teresa White encouraged me to go. Linda said she
was disappointed when I told her I was not going to go.
My husband, once I uttered the smallest hint that I thought
going might be a big growth step, pushed me to go.
Fast
forward…I’m GOING TO LAS VEGAS! My husband would
sit at the computer to make flight reservations for me and
I’d say “No! I can’t do it!” He’d
start to get up, and I’d say “Okay, I am going…I
can do this”, and he’d sit back down, only to
hear the same thing again several more times. Yes, no, yes,
no. Finally he ignored my indecision and bought the flights.
He looked at me and said “There! Now you are going!”
He sure does love me, I’d have strangled me in his
place!
I had only about 10 days to absorb the utterly crazy idea
of what I had done and to get organized and think about
what I would take. I wondered how I would manage this trip
when a simple once weekly run to the grocery store without
my husband along was beginning to cause more and more feelings
of anxiety and panic. What was I so afraid of? Would it
get worse? I bet it would. The trip, and my going, was all
about not allowing that to happen. It was putting a stop
to something that would only grow worse if I did nothing.
It was about taking my life back. I have to break the dependence
on others that I so easily allowed to grow in the two years
following my weight loss surgery. I allowed my husband and
children to completely care for and protect me, creating
a soft world, a sort of cushion. Suddenly I realized that
I have allowed myself to be crippled with fear at standing
on my own two feet. No one can get me thought this but myself,
as unpleasant and frightening a thought as it is. Making
this trip, as large as it seemed, was only a first step.
I didn’t post that I would go once the decision had
been made. It was a self-protective decision that I made
in order save face in the event that I could not force myself
on the plane at the last second. The few people I did tell
were Susan Maria, Teresa, Linda, Megan, and Tammy. Teresa
called me often with reassurance and encouragement and offered
her cell number to used at any time of day or night, to
help me talk the chaotic thoughts out, and the calm ones
back in, whenever I needed. Thank you Teresa, I wouldn’t
have gotten very far on my own.
Susan and Tammy sent encouraging PMs and Linda was so sweet
and helped me right down to the brand and color of hose
I would need. Being sort of ‘housebound’ for
two years puts one out of touch with such things!
Megan was on packing duty. I told her I was having a terrible
time getting my cloths into the suitcase. I had the suitcase
opened up, and everything I needed laid neatly around it,
but not IN it! The mental hurdle that kept me from packing
was that once those things were all in the suitcase, the
trip was one step closer to real. Megan made sure I conquered
the suitcase problem, but it wasn’t until just before
I needed to leave for the airport that I managed it. After
the first few things went in, I KNEW I was going, and actually
felt a tiny bit calmer and the rest of packing was easy.
Because I waited so long to get my flights, I had very little
choice in times. I would have to leave the house by 3 am
in order to make my 6 am nonstop flight to Las Vegas. While
I laid down, I sure never closed my eyes that night.
I am a pretty spiritual person. But when I stepped onto
that plane and buckled in, I thought for sure I was headed
for my undoing. All thoughts that God was next to me, pushing
me along quickly escaped my brain! I have never felt so
alone. I had a panic brief attack. While others dozed on
the early-morning flight, I sat and wondered if I might
be sick. Not from flight sickness, but fright sickness.
Too late, I was on my way. I am not a fan of flying as a
mode of transportation, especially on my own, left to navigate
bustling airports, unsure of how it’s “done”.
The last time I flew by myself, things were very different;
there were no kiosks, no limitations on carrying a drink
of water in your backpack, no impatient security people
waiting the scare the heck of us un-traveled innocents,
Geeze!
I felt pretty good to be alive when the plane arrived, but
now I was in a strange place and on my own. Yes, I had cell
phone numbers of Teresa, Megan (who would arrive much later),
and Linda, but I was still on my own and determined not
to use them. I got in line for a cab. Just as Susan had
said it would be, it was easy. However, the second he pulled
away from the curb, I wondered what would stop him from
driving me behind one of the those mountains, and killing
me or even worse, rolling me for my protein supplements
and leaving me parched in the dessert to die! Of course
that didn’t happen. And when it didn’t, I was
able to see that the worst does NOT always happen, and that
I can be as independent as I choose to be. Once in front
of the Mirage, I did dial Teresa’s cell and she came
to meet me outside of the front doors of the Mirage. I was
so relieved to finally be there, and so terrified of the
next steps, meeting people, having to talk to people that
were not my family members that I couldn’t stop myself
from physically trembling. (I know you are all my family
too, but you KNOW what I mean!)
Teresa could feel it through our hug, and I think she wondered
if I would be letting her go anytime soon. Teresa is a very
calming voice for me. I felt right away that things would
be okay, but for the wrong reasons. I felt that way because
I knew she’d take me in hand and take care of me,
sort of like being passed from my husband into her hands.
Not exactly a growth process, more of a temporary adoption!
Not good! But for the moment it was working, so, hey…
It sounds so stupid, but I had no idea of what to do or
how to go about checking into a hotel. Teresa took me to
the check in desk and showed me how to get the job done!
I was mightily impressed at her efficiency and assertiveness.
My arrival time was very early and being a pro, she said
that I could leave my bags at the bell station and they
would deliver them later when a room was ready. Who knew?
It
was all pretty overwhelming. I met Lisa, Sarah, and Helen
as they sat at the breakfast which my arrival had pulled
Teresa from. I felt so tongue tied and didn’t quite
know what to do with my hands, so I started wringing them.
Hand wringing was to be my main form of exercising for the
next 24 hours. When Teresa took me to the hospitality suite
to meet Susan and Ty, Susan said “Hello! You made
it, I am so glad to see you!” I said, wringing my
hands of course, “I wanna go home”. I fought
back tears and felt stupid and ashamed for feeling so childish.
My discomfort at not being in the small safe existence of
my home was catching up to me. It was obvious that Susan
and the others in the room had their hands full preparing
for so many arrivals. Teresa had plenty that she needed
to do, too. Ty was immediately at my side! That soft voice
and Georgian accent are so very calming. He and Susan are
a perfect complement to each other. He took me into the
large bedroom and showed me the beautiful expansive view,
pointing out every building and telling me what it was and
when he’d been there and how he like it and why. He
told me he loves Vegas. It will always be special to him,
as that is where he married Susan.
I noticed that my hands had stopped wringing themselves
to death. I have never met any more gracious, lovely, people
in my life than the few that I met on my early arrival in
Las Vegas. Teresa, Susan, Ty, everyone, all were so kind
and I could see that they truly were glad I was there. As
I got ready to go to my room, Susan, of course, asked if
I needed some protein! Always thinking about staying healthy
and fueling our bodies…and I lied and said I had just
had a bar at the airport when I landed…as if!!! My
stomach had been tipped on end for hours. Food was not an
option.
I got checked into my room, showered, and soon it was time
to get ready for the meet and greet. I wasn’t exactly
feeling calm about it. Not only were my hands wringing again,
I was wondering how in the world I could get out of going!
Hand wringing…such an obvious distress signal. I’m
working on stopping that. But, I had gotten through several
very difficult hurdles in the past 12 hours and I was seeing
that I could get through them without my husband pulling
me along. Teresa was doing a lot of pulling, yes, but at
least it wasn’t my very familiar husband. I was so
tired, both physically emotionally, that it was pretty much
a mechanical thing to get dressed and walk to the hospitality
suite. I took a deep breath, opened the door, and walked
in.
I scanned the room and my eyes landed on Linda, who also
spotted me right away. (Thank you Linda for watching for
me!) She came straight over and we hugged and I felt some
of the weight that I had been carrying around for far too
long begin to melt. Not all of it, but Linda was a familiar
comfort even before we ever laid eyes on each other. We
have talked a lot through email and PMs, so in a way, it
was like a meeting up of long-time, familiar friends, who
had been separated for years. Slowly I got comfortable with
being in a room full of people that I only thought I didn’t
know. Once they recognized me and I them, and we spoke,
I could see that many were feeling some of the same things
that was going through. I realized that I was not the only
nervous nelly in the group. We were all “ready-made”
friends; not the strangers that I had built up in mind.
I truly had relationships with most of these people long
before this night. There were many smiling faces and hugs,
and laughter all around. What a welcoming and reassuring
thing for someone like me, who can be afraid of their own
reflection at times!
If I had to plan on my own, a way to break free of my fears
of independence, there is no way I could have ever come
up with such an effective or more warm and inviting way
to do it than this BE trip to Las Vegas. It was the softest
possible place to fall and land, and I did it with my feet
hitting the ground first. I learned so many things about
myself. I can stand on my own two feet. Oh, I know sometimes
I’ll need a little help, and sometimes even a lot,
and sometimes I will feel that I haven’t gotten anywhere;
but this trip was a great launching pad and I’ll only
grow and stretch from here if I continue to push myself.
As easy as it would be for me to climb back into my comfort
zone, I don’t plan on it. The most worthwhile things
are what those that we have to work really hard for so we
can appreciate who we have become along the way. Personal
struggles are, in my opinion, the very best lessons in empathy.
Am I cured for having gone on the BE Las Vegas trip? No,
but I took a chance and now have a great start. It’s
up to me what I do next. Will venturing out on my own to
the grocery store for fresh produce tomorrow be suddenly
easy? No, but now I know I can. With time, and with practice,
and repetition, it will get easy… or at the very least,
easier, and eventually, hopefully, the fears will fade completely.
I have gained and grown by finally stepping outside of my
comfort zone.
It’s not easy nor fun to be in a situation that makes
one uncomfortable, and scared, and downright panicked. But,
I did it, and realizing that I will get though the hardest
of times is a really good feeling. Before I left for Las
Vegas, I had no idea how strong I am. I considered myself
a burden to my family, needing always to be with one of
them in order to leave my home. In Las Vegas, I was able
to discover my own strength, that I don’t need to
rely on the strength of others all of the time. There is
a right time to do that, yes, sometimes we all need to borrow
strength from others, but gosh, what a sense of self accomplishment
to find that I have some of my own!
~Laurel,
aka “Pinkie”
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Post-Op
Pregnancy: Lisa’s Second Trimester
I
had the chance to sit down and chat with Lisa one morning
in Las Vegas. It was nice to sit down with her and chit-chat
over breakfast about her pregnancy and all of the interesting
things she’s dealt with as a post-op mama-to-be. She
was absolutely glowing with excitement about her new baby…I
don’t think the Smashbox artists even had to add any
of the “O-Glow” to make this girl’s face
shine!
Megan: So, tell me…when you were looking
for an OB/GYN, did you specifically seek out a WLS-knowledgeable
doctor?
Lisa: Actually, as it turned out, I had
a friend who was seeing this doctor. My friend struggles
with weight, and the doctor actually spoke to her about
WLS, asking her if she had considered the option. When I
heard that, I sought her out as my OB/GYN, as I wanted someone
who had at least some background knowledge of the surgery.
The most important thing for me, as it should be with any
post-op, is to have a PCP and an OB/GYN who are willing
to communicate back-and-forth, and work in tandem to ensure
optimal health for the baby and me. It has been critically
important for them to be in close communication with each
other throughout my whole pregnancy. At the same time, it
is always important to be your own advocate—if something
doesn’t sound right or seem like something you should
do post-op, speak up and ask about it! Research everything—you’ve
got to take care of yourself.
Megan:
How has your bloodwork been in your second trimester? Any
changes to your vitamin routine, or any major deficiencies?
Lisa: My bloodwork has been really good,
except for my iron levels. I have had to triple my iron
dosage to provide adequate supplies for the baby and me.
This is another example of why it’s important to have
doctors who are willing to communicate with each other,
because my doctor’s didn’t initally agree on
how to treat my iron deficiency. But they worked together,
researched, and communicated until they reached a plan they
could both agree on. As far as my vitamins go, I’m
still using Vista, but I only do them every other day; I
rotate with the regular prenatal vitamins—another
compromise of the doctors!
Megan: Are there any differences in any
of the normal pregnancy routines for you as a post-op than
there would be for a non-op?
Lisa: Yes! This is another time that communication
between my doctors and my own self-advocacy was really important.
There is a test done for gestational diabetes, called the
Blood Glucose Test. It involves drinking a highly-sugared
drink and then checking your levels. I knew that drinking
that concoction would make me dump and I’d be ill,
so I spoke up about it. The compromise we reached was that,
instead of the usual test, I would do finger pricks at home
for a week, twice a day. I pricked and tested my levels
first thing in the morning, while fasting, and then again
one hour after the largest meal of my day. My doctors were
able to tell from those results the same information they
could’ve gathered from the blood glucose test.
Megan:
Any last pieces of advice?
Lisa:
Just because your OB/GYN says to do something, don’t
just do it without checking into things yourself. Research
it. Learn about your body, learn about the tests…advocate
for yourself. Make sure your doctors communicate with each
other, and demand that they work together to make sure you
are well. It is so important to take care of yourself.
Megan:
Thanks, Lisa! It has been great talking with you, and best
of luck as you finish out your third trimester and have
a happy, healthy baby boy. We can’t wait to see his
pictures!
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BIG
NEWS concerning our beloved AchievONE!
In
Las Vegas, some of you were privy to news that achievONE
is going through many very positive changes that will greatly
benefit us all – over the next several months. Their
VP of sales, Maggi, joined us at the Mirage, and let us
know that they will be sending BariatricEating.com the first
prototypes of their new protein bar line. They’d like
us to put them in your AO orders along with an opinion sheet.
The first flavors of the ‘top secret’ bars will
be Cappuccino and Vanilla and Maggi said they are fantastic!
So watch for them sometime in August.
They
also will introduce a new Chocolate and Vanilla non-coffee
version of achievONE by year’s end. The big news is
that the entire achievONE line has been reformulated so
it can be produced in hard plastic 'bottles' instead of
glass. Great news for shipping as this means less weight,
less packaging, and less breakage! The current glass version
is a two-step cooking process and their food chemists had
to change the formula to allow for a single cooking process
to accommodate the new acrylic bottles. I am told that the
test runs of achievONE are even smoother and creamier than
the original with no difference in the flavor that we love.
HOWEVER, in the meantime they will make one more run in
glass bottles while they tweak the new packaging. This last
run should arrive at our warehouses by late August. So there
will be a dry spell while they change packaging. From then
on, we shouldn’t have any more shortages as the new
production is much less labor-intensive and they will be
able to make larger batches! Thanks to the makers of AO
for gearing up for larger production runs; we love our Hazelnut,
Mocha Java, Cappuccino, and Vanilla Nut!
Susan
Maria’s tips for ‘What to drink when you are
out of achievONE’:
1. Pour half a carton of Micellar Milk into your Blender
Ball Shaker, add a heaping spoonful of Nectar Cappuccino
powder to the liquid, add a handful of ice cubes, and shake.
Absolutely delicious! You can also add a pinch of cinnamon
or a splooge of DaVinci sugar free Macadamia Nut, Praline,
Raspberry, Dulce de Leche, German Chocolate Cake, or Malibu
Rum syrup to the mixture for pure ecstasy.
2. Place a heaping scoop of Whey Gourmet Arctic Frappaccino
into your Blender Ball Shaker, fill to the 12 ounce line
with cold water, add a handful of ice, and a glug of DaVinci
sugar free Dulce de Leche syrup. Screw on the top and shake
it, shake it, like a Polaroid picture. The Vegas group can
confirm that this is every bit as lip smacking good as AO,
and not just because I was the one making them at our protein
bar.
3. Stir ½ teaspoon of instant coffee or espresso
granules into a carton of Micellar Milk Vanilla and add
ice. Put it into another galaxy with a glug of DaVinci sugar
free Chocolate sauce or Cinnamon Bliss sauce.
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Jim’s WLS Journey
Jim’s
journey through WLS continues this month with his thoughts
leading up to and immediately following his surgery…
So,
here we are, 3 days to surgery… I won’t get
the time of my surgery until 2:00 p.m. on Monday, so even
up until the day before there is an element of “what’s
gonna happen next”. This has been a really long journey.
It has seen me through probably the toughest thing I have
experienced in life up until this point, the end of my marriage.
First, before I go too much further, I need to stop and
just say “Thank You” to everyone in the BE Community
and to Susan Maria for bringing all of us together. On average,
dealing with our own day to day struggles, it is probably
hard for everyone to collectively realize just how much
you touch one another’s lives. To prove my point,
let me just explain why I joined this board.
I
had been researching gastric bypass for years; yes, I had
started the process with my first surgeon back in August
2006, but none of that prompted me to join the board when
I did. I had been lurking for a couple of months before
I joined, just reading, gathering knowledge from those that
had walked the path that I was still coming to terms with
walking personally, but even that did not cause me to join.
Nope, I joined the boards at 11:37 PM EST, 23 minutes before
the ball dropped on New Year’s Eve, 2006 when I had
pretty much come to the realization that my marriage was
over. If you’re board or like a good soap opera, the
post can be found here
. The support I got from everyone on the board that day
and the days to follow was irreplaceable; for that I will
always be truly grateful.
I
would like to say I am nervous or excited or something about
this coming Tuesday but I guess the best way to describe
it would have to be “numb”. I guess there is
part of me that still does not believe it is going to happen,
or that I will somehow be one of the people that doesn’t
have success with their surgery. I am sure the panic will
finally set in on Tuesday morning (or Monday night when
I can’t sleep). I am terrified of needles and this
300-pound, intimidating-looking guy actually gets prescribed
Ativan in order to control his anxiety. However, for the
first time in my life, I am looking at it logically and
saying, “It is only a couple of needles in exchange
for a lifetime of better health and better living.”
I think I am going to be okay on that part of it too. I
have a Blackberry full of email addresses to send messages
to once I am out of surgery and a list of people to send
text messages to once I able to. Two things are coming out
of this surgery… well, two major things that will
each have a ripple effect on the rest of my life.
The
obvious: Life altering surgery that I can only imagine the
impact on the rest of my life. Being able to do things that
my weight has either physically or mentally (most cases)
prevented me from doing. I am joining an Aikido dojo, I
am going to learn to ice skate and roller blade, I will
run the Lilac Festival 5K in Rochester, NY next spring,
etc… I am going to live life more and watch it from
the sidelines less.
The
not so obvious: I get to finalize my divorce. The one thing
I will always be grateful for is that my soon to be officially
ex-wife allowed me to finish up this path to surgery on
the insurance I was on when it started. Yes, I could have
gone the COBRA route at nearly $400.00 a month, but that
would have depleted the money I was saving by using her
insurance. I am looking forward to finally closing this
chapter of my life. A lot of things have happened recently
that confirmed that this was the right decision beyond a
shadow of a doubt and I have not looked back once since
that cold day in January when it ended.
I
have rambled enough, so let me just close by saying I am
very glad that I have met each and every one of you and
I look forward to continuing this journey on the other side
of this with you guys. I could not ask for a better group
of friends or a better form of support than the people I
have met through BE.
Yours
always,
~ Jim
Update:
Well folks, the surgery’s over, and as soon as
I can find the bus that hit me, I am filing a grievance
against the company! Haha…just kidding…I think.
All in all, the surgery went well. I went under at 11:00
am Tuesday morning. By 5:00 am, Wednesday morning I had
walked my first five laps post-surgery (all the while with
that stupid "27 Laps around Equals a Mile" sign
taunting me). By 5:00 pm that night I had walked four miles
total. The morning I was discharged (Thursday, the 12th),
I had walked my fifth and last mile and I have to tell you,
four was the magic number; five was a little rough on the
body. I got home around 11:00am Thursday morning, took some
pain medicine and rested. I got as much down as I could.
By Friday morning I was moving around a lot more, showering,
etc. Today, Saturday, July 14th, I am feeling much better.
I have not taken any pain medicine since Thursday. When
I hopped on the scale, I was down 7lbs already, no complaints
here!
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Men’s
Corner
Get
Active!
It’s
a known fact: men like sports. It just seems to work that
way. Granted, not all men like sports…but, as a general
rule, men and sports seem to go hand-in-hand. However, for
many men, especially those who have spent a lot of their
lives morbidly obese, they tend to like sports from the
sidelines—as spectators, not players.
Well, that’s all about to change! Adult intramural
sports leagues are gaining in popularity coast-to-coast,
giving former couch potatoes a chance to get out there and
shine! Isn’t it convenient that this trend is really
catching on at the same time your waistline is shrinking?
Hmmm…I think I sense an opportunity here!
C’mon,
guys…give it a chance! Get up off the couch, leave
the protein chips and jerky on the coffee table, get out
there and PLAY! Team sports are an awesome form of exercise,
minus the boring at-the-gym feeling.
To find out more about adult sports leagues in your area,
CLICK HERE,
or google “adult sports leagues” to find local
leagues. Have fun!
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| From
the Editor’s Desk
Well, as I sit here on this bright and sunny
Saturday morning, I’m very aware that
I’m back in Maryland…Las Vegas is
far behind, and my breakfast seems suddenly
boring when eaten without the constant laughter
and chatter of my BE friends.
The
past week has been such a whirlwind of emotion
for me. I admit, I was nervous to go to Las
Vegas—I really was! Those who know me
would probably be a little surprised by that
statement…I’ve traveled all over
the world without hesitation, but now I was
suddenly nervous about a little trip to Las
Vegas!
I
wondered what people would think of me. Would
I live up to their expectations? Would I be
funny enough, smart enough, entertaining enough?
Have I lost enough weight, have I been successful
enough? Those questions started creeping into
my brain pretty much daily (heck, for that matter,
hourly!)…and I really started worrying
about the trip. It didn’t help that, just
two weeks before, I had to go on a round of
steroids for allergic reactions, which resulted
in a fabulous amount of bloating and breakouts…ugh!
The
minute I arrived, I realized just how foolish
all of my self-doubting thoughts had been. I
was amongst friends, not standing before some
panel of personality judges! I didn’t
need to worry about what others thought; we
were there to enjoy each other’s company
and share the stories and victories of our WLS
journeys.
I
was truly blessed to meet so many of you on
the trip. I know that the trip was a serious
growth spurt for some of us…well, it was
for all of us. Any time we step outside our
normal boundaries, we grow. There was a LOT
of growing going on in Las Vegas!
The
one thing that I really learned is that we are
our own worst critics. I read on the boards
all the time as people talked about their “bat
wings” and their tummy rolls…as
they complained about saggy areas, wrinkly skin,
etc…(I’m guilty of doing it, too!)
but what’s odd was that I never noticed
any of that stuff on any of them when we were
introduced. I noticed the smiles, the hugs,
the tears…and the JOY that we all shared
in reclaiming our lives and our health. We are
amazing people. We saw our lives, lost to morbid
obesity, and we stood up for ourselves and reclaimed
them. For this, we should be very proud and
celebrate daily.
The
Las Vegas trip was a celebration—a spirit
of victory and joy permeated the room every
time we gathered together. I challenge each
and every one of you to live in that spirit—the
one of celebration—each day of your life.
If you weren’t at the celebration this
year, I still think you know what I mean. Live
each day as a party to celebrate what you’ve
done so far. You might not be supermodel-skinny…you
might have saggy arms…you might not like
the way your legs look…but you are ALIVE,
and you are on the road to good health. THAT,
my friends, is worth celebrating ALL THE TIME!

~Megan
Editor of BElieve |
Product of the Month
Better
Balance Protein Cereal
In Las Vegas, I had the opportunity to try
this incredibly delcious cereal…and
WOW!…it is GOOD!
The cereal looks, smells, and tastes just
like “real” cereal…little
“o”s bursting with flavor. It
is available in three flavors—French
Vanilla, Honey Almond, and Apple Cinnamon.
I tried the Honey Almond (hello, honey nut
Cheerios!) and the Apple Cinnamon (remember
Apple Jacks?). They were wonderful! Pour a
splash of Micellar Milk over them, drink it
first, and then eat the wet cereal—a
delicious breakfast! The best part, in my
opinion, is that they come in 12 individually-packed
1 oz. bags, which is wonderful for portion
control! One serving packs in 9 grams of protein,
with only 100 calories and 12 net carbs. They’re
the perfect craving-quencher for those occasional
“must-eat-cereal” moments!
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Preventing
Injuries During Exercise
This
past week, I experienced a minor set back
in my exercise routine due to a minor injury.
I participated in the local “Relay for
Life” event and walked about ten miles.
As a result of all this walking, I developed
a twisted ankle. With rest, it healed quickly,
but I do think it could have been prevented.
So, I thought this month I’d focus on
preventing injuries during your exercise routine.
Remember--before
starting any exercise routine you should consult
your physician. If (s)he requires additional
medical tests, get them done and review them
with your doctor. It is very important for
those of us who have may have been inactive
for a long while to take this initial step.
Exercise can put additional strain on your
joints, muscles, lungs and heart. Make sure
you are in good shape to begin a regular exercise
routine. Start off slowly – work up
to your routine. Take baby steps—you’re
not going to go from never exercising to running
a marathon the next day.
The
second most important thing to do when beginning
a workout program is to make sure that you
have the proper equipment, and that the equipment
you have fits properly. Workout clothes that
are too big can cause you to trip and fall.
It’s imperative that you have the right
shoes for your sport and that they fit properly.
Tennis shoes are made differently depending
on the sport they are designed for. If you
have not purchased workout shoes in a while,
you may wish to be properly fitted at a sports
store to be sure your foot is supported properly.
A well-supported foot protects your knees
and your back! Remember, many people experience
changes in foot size as they lose weight—so
your old tennis shoes might be getting too
big.
During
your workout, stay hydrated by drinking plenty
of water. Limit your training sessions to
no more than two hours, and allow your body
plenty of recovery time between workouts.
Personal Trainers recommend lifting weights
every other day. If you lift weights for arms
one day, do legs the next and then repeat.
If you do all muscle groups on the same day
it is recommended that you wait one day to
recover.
When
exercising, work on cardiovascular endurance,
strength training, and flexibility. Having
strength and being flexible helps your cardio
endurance; having cardio endurance helps with
strength and flexibility. All three areas
work together to build a stronger and healthier
you!
It’s
also important to pay attention to your surroundings
during your workout. I enjoy running, and
it has become my main form of exercise. I
pay very close attention to my environment
when I’m out running. I’m especially
watchful of cracks and bumps in the road or
sidewalk where I am running. It only takes
one misstep to twist, or even break, an ankle.
Also, keep music devices turned down to a
point where you can hear cars coming and people
approaching.
Furthermore,
taking time to warm up and to stretch will
help prevent an injury. When time is short
for exercise, many folks will skip this part.
It’s better to do a complete warm up
and then to shorten your regular exercise
routine. If you have not properly stretched
or warmed up your muscles, you are putting
yourself at risk for a strain or a muscle
tear. A complete warm-up should take at least
ten minutes. Remember this is an important
step in your routine and, if done properly,
builds strength and flexibility.
I
hope your exercise routines are injury-free.
However, if you do injure yourself, see your
doctor right away for advice on care and recovery.
Don’t put off a visit to the doctor,
as you can further injure yourself very easily.
It’s important to get that exercise
in but it’s even more important to take
care of your body and to listen to what it’s
telling you. Don’t feel guilty if you
need to take a few days off to recover from
a strain--those days off may prevent you from
having to take a few months off!
~Lisa Hall
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Linda’s Recipe of the Month

CHEESECAKE TARTS WITH BERRIES
Vegetable
spray
12
wonton wrappers
One
8 ounce pkg. reduced fat cream cheese
1/2
teaspoon vanilla
2
teaspoons lemon juice
1/2
cup Splenda
2
cups frozen whipped topping, thawed
1
cup raspberries
1/2
cup blueberries
Preheat
oven to 350 degrees. Spray a regular-sized
muffin pan with vegetable spray. Place one
wonton wrapper in each cup, pressing down
gently. Lightly spray wrappers with vegetable
spray. Bake for 8-9 minutes or until golden
and crispy. Set aside to cool.
In
a medium bowl beat together the cream cheese,
vanilla, lemon juice, and Splenda. Fold in
whipped topping. Place 1 tablespoon of filling
into each tart shell. Scatter berries on top
of filling. Dust with powdered sugar, if desired.
Makes 12 servings.
Per
Serving: 107 Cal; 6 g Protein; 6 g Tot Fat;
8 g Carb; 1 g Fiber; 1 g Sugar; 103 mg Sodium
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The
Stress-Obesity Connection

Australian researchers reported recently in
the journal Nature Medicine that stress unlocks
certain receptors in our fat cells, causing
them to increase in size and number. Herbert
Herzog, PhD, of the Garvan Institute of Medical
Research in Sydney, Australia, stated that researchers
have known for over 10 years that there is a
relationship between stress and obesity, but
this latest research has revealed more about
how that happens. In fact, they now know the
“exact pathway” of the link between
chronic stress and obesity.
Stress
causes obesity. Okay, that makes sense. Now
what?
Do
whatever you can to reduce stress in your life.
Even
GOOD things cause stress, so be aware of that.
We don’t want to cut down on the number
of positive things around us, but we CAN work
on reducing negative stress.
Here
is a list of ways (courtesy of WebMD) to reduce
negative stress. The list was targeted toward
those 50 and over, but hey—we can all
use these great ideas!
1. Exercise regularly. Exercise
reduces stress, improves mood, and boosts overall
health. It also helps you sleep better.
2. Build a support system.
For some people, becoming part of a religious
community helps reduce stress. For others it
may be diving into a swim club, or a sewing
circle. But wherever your find them, solid friendships
help you feel warmth, security, connection.
3. Keep a positive attitude.
Look for silver linings and good news. Make
a gratitude list.
4. Let go of negatives. Accept that there are
things you cannot control.
5. Be assertive instead of
aggressive. Instead of becoming angry, defensive,
or passive, assert your feelings, opinions,
or beliefs.
6. Find ways to relax. Learn
to meditate. Try relaxation tapes and CDs. Listen
to the great music of classical composers.
7. Develop new interests. Having
a sense of adventure can help you reduce stress.
Tune in to your dreams. Find things to be passionate
about. Find a hobby. Be creative!
8. Get enough rest and sleep. When you're under
stress, your body needs time to recover. Give
it the rest it needs.
9. Eat healthy, balanced meals.
Your body needs good nutrition to fight effects
of stress. Also, don't rely on alcohol to quiet
your anxiety.
10. Volunteer. When you commit
yourself to helping others, you find purpose.
You take the focus off yourself, but you achieve
a feeling of accomplishment
The
Before and After Help board includes and encourages
many of these things. Isn’t it great to
know you are already doing something that helps
reduce bad stress in your life? If you’re
not already “on the boards,” come
and join us to keep negative stress at bay!
~Lousie
K.
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The Singles’ Corner
Inner
Fat Girl Syndrome
Since
having surgery, I have lost a lot of things—weight,
pants with elastic in the waist, and ugly
shoes. However, the one thing that I just
can't seem to get rid of is my “Inner
Fat Girl” (IFG). She is the one that
I used to silence with snack cakes and chips.
Now that eating like that isn't an option
for me, she is angry—and she is VOCAL
about it!
The IFG is the one that tells you all the
reasons why you “shouldn't” and
why you “can't” do things. I have
seen a lot of IFGs posting on the message
board lately. I see beautiful and accomplished
women who are worried that the people that
they have been sharing their journey with
will somehow reject them when they come from
behind the keyboard. When I took my first
post op trip to meet online friends, I felt
the same way. In fact, I almost canceled my
trip to Chicago! I discussed it with my father,
and he reminded me that I had WLS to improve
my life. That being the case, why would I
spend it doing the same things I did when
I as trapped by obesity? He was right! From
the minute I sat on the plane and discovered
that I no longer needed a seat belt extension
to the time I touched down home again, I had
a wonderful time! I discovered a new city
that I love, connected with some great people,
and found how much fun traveling can be!
Now I am over 2 years post-op, and I am still
wrestling with my IFG. Just recently, an Assistant
Supervisor position has become available at
my job. I almost let my IFG talk me out of
applying for it, even though I have the highest
seniority and I am more than qualified for
it. She was whispering in the back of my mind
that a candidate had already been selected—one
that was smaller than me--so why even bother?
Luckily for me, my team stepped in and gave
me the smack in the head I needed to see reason.
There is no guarantee that I will get the
job; but I can say that if I don't, it won't
be because I didn't try.
This is not the only place she shows up, either;
the IFG is very sneaky! If I meet a man the
shows interest in me, she is right there in
my ear. "He is only talking to you because
he thinks you are an easy fat girl!"
or " There must be something wrong with
him if he is interested in you!" Pretty
harsh, right? The IFG is no joke—she’s
vicious and incredibly self-destructive.
But,
I have started fighting back. When I catch
the IFG talking to me, I have my handy replies
ready, just like I would for anyone else.
For example, when the IFG says to me "You
should wear pants! You legs are still too
fat for a skirt! And why on earth are you
thinking of heels?! You are 6 foot tall. You
are going to stand out even more! Wear flats!”
I reply, "I have strong healthy, wonderful
legs! Not only am I going to wear the dress,
I am going to wear 3-inch, bright red, patent-leather
pumps with it!" The concept is simple.
You should not allow ANYONE to put you down,
not even you! The fact that you are in the
midst of a WLS journey shows that you are
brave and strong person. You are capable of
breaking out of the mold to do what is best
for you. Don't waste your new and beautiful
post-op life letting some evil IFG put limits
on what you are going to do with it!
~Malia
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I
first come in contact with this month’s
star over a year ago, when Jennifer Presley
sent me an email one day about a recipe I had
come up with for an almond joy protein drink.
At the time, she was not satisfied with her
loss and looking for great-tasting supplements.
We became good friends through email, and today
I see how confident and secure she has grown
to be. Putting much time and effort into researching
WLS back in 2000, she went through the pre-op
evaluations, approval, and even scheduled her
surgery…only to cancel the night before.
Jennifer admits that her mother was against
her having the surgery and she allowed her mom
to talk her out of it.
Jennifer had become a recluse in her own home,
not leaving her home for fear of what people
would say or how they would react to her. She
feared what would happen to her now eight-year-old
son, Sean, with them hiding away in the house.
Jennifer only left the house to go to work.
Working in the hospital all day eventually became
more than she could tolerate due to venous stasis.
After gaining an additional 40 pounds after
her original surgery date, Jennifer decided
it was time to take action. Her research led
her to a surgeon that was new to her area—Dr.
Allen Brader. She says that this time, “It
just felt right,” so weighing in at 350
pounds on her 5’ 8” frame, Jennifer
had WLS on August 9, 2005. Jennifer had the
support of her husband who she says was afraid,
but never allowed it to show.

Today Jennifer is feeling wonderful about herself
and her accomplishments with her WLS. At 182
pounds, she is healthy and happy. Jennifer,
you are a star in my eyes!!!
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